1. Be available to listen: When a friend is hurting, the best thing you can do is to make yourself available to them in their crisis, and to really listen while they share their pain. You don’t have to say much – they’re not looking for solutions. What they need is empathy and understanding.
|—||Dr. D’elve Je Veux III (via nirvikalpa)|
|—||Elizabeth Gilbert (via kari-shma)|
A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled ‘n asked.
‘Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?’
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said,…
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong-doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The thoughts you sent out have been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real.
But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must
build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
THANK THE PERSON THAT HAS IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER HAS BEEN A VALUABLE PART OF YOUR LIFE.
Even if only in a small way, you can make them feel that you are indeed thankful for their presence as well as the beautiful moments that they have given you…
no matter if they are your reason, season, or your lifetime.
|—||Mi (not to be mistaken for me, I wish I had written this, but I had to re-post this here because it is exactly what I wanted to say, they just managed to say it before me, and probably better than I would have! Edited slightly to help read more easily.)|
… which means, of course, that bad-personhood should be a dealbreaker. If someone treats other people poorly, eventually that behavior will extend to you, too.
This is different things to different people, so I can only speak in generalities that mean something to me. But is this person a…